The genesis of #NoSafeHaven

The immediate aftermath of my abusive relationship led to many new beginnings for me, two of which were the unmitigated horror of post-separation abuse, and the start of my healing journey. It was the time when the penny finally dropped and I started piecing together everything I’d experienced over the preceding months and began seeing it for what it truly was: a purposeful and sustained campaign of narcissistic abuse. Thanks, in part, to resources shared by other victim-survivors online, I was able to move forward with deeper understanding.

What I found, though, was that much of the focus was on us as survivors to heal and grow as well as, quite rightly, the need for the police, social services and the court system to better implement domestic violence and coercive control laws and policies. Yet what of our abusers? They seem to get the least scrutiny of all, as they skip away from the carnage they caused in our lives and onto their next victim with impunity.

What if we also focussed on ensuring there is #NoSafeHaven for abusers in our homes, families and communities so that they cannot find excuses and support for their harmful behaviours and can finally be held to account?